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KNOT SEXY: Local man works to educate couples on safe bondage technique

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Will Brown puts on the caterpillar knot in his bedroom as he demonstrates how it is used.
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YUKON, Okla.- “Life imitates art far more than art imitates life.”- Oscar Wilde on the state of our world.

Rachel and her boyfriend went in June 2015 to see the of the movie 50 Shades of Grey, and after discussing the ideas of role-playing, the couple decided to explore the fetish fantasized on the big screen.

This would prove to be the worst night of Rachel’s young life. Later that night, Rachel was rushed to the emergency room because of suffocation and severe rope burns applied to her wrists, ankles and neck. She would make a full recovery, but her friend Will Brown from Yukon wouldn’t.

The near-tragedy led Brown to learn the proper way of tying people up and is now spreading the word about Shibari, a martial art of restraining captives that has found new life in the world of bondage play.

He doesn’t want anyone else to get hurt in the pursuit of passion and now helps educate other Oklahomans on the ancient Japanese art of Shibari.

BDSM BOOM

In the heat of a lusty June in 2011, a British author published her first erotica book meant for a trilogy. An over-glorified fan-fiction of Twilight with more sex packed from each end of the book, the book had women flocking to the bookstores to explore the more explicit nature of their own bedrooms.

E.L. James brought the sexual fetish of BDSM - short for Bondage, Dominance, Submission, and Masochism- to the forefront of modern culture.

In the book, the male character of Christian Grey would play out sexual fantasies with his fictional counterpart, Anastasia Steele. Upon reading these books, the ideas of role-playing with dominance and bondage on the brain would come to life in the walls of many bedrooms across the world.

After finding out that Rachel’s boyfriend had used some coarse rope that he found at the back of his truck in the middle of the country, Brown vowed that this would never happen again to another couple. With that vow in mind, Brown began to teach himself about the art of Shibari.

TYING THE KNOT

According to The Art of Contemporary Shibari, www artofcontemporaryshibari.com, Shibari is Japanese for “to tie.”

“The origin of Shibari comes from Hojo-Jutsu, the martial art of restraining captives,” the article reads. “In Japan from 1400 to 1700, while the local police and Samurai used Hojo-Jutsu as a form of imprisonment and torture, the honor of these ancient Samurai warriors required them to treat their prisoners well…showing the honor and status of their captured prisoner.”

 According to the website, in the late 1800′s and early 1900′s, a new form of erotic Hojo-Jutsu evolved, called Kinbaku, the art of erotic bondage. Today, particularly in the west, the art of erotic bondage is typically called Shibari, which is an art of erotic spirituality, not a martial art.

“The aesthetic arrangement of ropes and knots on the model’s body in Shibari rigging emphasizes characteristics like sensuality, vulnerability, and also strength,” the article reads.

“The positioning of knots in appropriate places stimulates pressure points on the body, very similar to acupuncture techniques and Shiatsu, a form of Japanese massage. Some believe a Shibari experience also stimulates Ki energy flow and transfer.

Brown said when he decided to educate himself and others, he was asked if he would charge people for his services

“No, this is simply to educate people and make sure that nobody got hurt,” he said. “It’s a free service and I’m not going to charge anyone for it. I do accept tips but I’m not out here trying to make money off of this.”

Brown saw the trend beginning to form in the public conscious and decided to become more educated in the lifestyle.

“This was pretty much self-taught,” Brown said. “Between guides on tying knots and theater, a lot of the rigging I do is stagecraft.”

Having a background in theater, he knew how to work with different styles of knots and ropes. Specifically, he knew which ones would induce the most pleasure without inflicting lasting pain.

Eventually, Brown found himself buying upwards to 50 yards of rope at a time and experimenting on himself to see what would work and what would end up failing or constricting.

“A lot of this stuff that I know now is through self-experimentation,” Brown said. “There’s nobody, as far as I know anywhere near here, that teaches a class on how to tie a person up without hurting them.”

The lack of education that people have about this sort of lifestyle leads to an amount of injuries. In fact, according to an article from the Washington Post, the annual rate for sex-toy related injuries in the year that 50 Shades of Grey was published was around 1,750 people.

The number in 2012 was more than 2,500, and that number would only slightly decrease to 2,400 people in the following year.

Brown began to publicize his services on popular apps like Yik Yak, Meetme and Craigslist. He advertised that he was in the business of educating couples on how to properly perform Shibari on one another.

“That’s what I’m here for,” Brown said. “Instead of getting your boyfriend to pick up some of that shitty rope that could hurt you, just call me, I’ll show up, I’ll walk you through everything, I’ll hang out on the couch and you guys do your thing. I just want to make sure that nobody gets hurt.”

Brown was surprised by the number of people that contacted him for his services. He estimated that the age demographic was typically younger couples in their early 20’s to mid 30’s. Though he jokes about his requirements being that you must have “2 feet and a heartbeat,” his requirements have always been for consenting adults above the age of 18.

THE ART OF KNOTTING

Whenever Brown wasn’t being contacted, he visited hardware stores and worked on various knots, perfecting his craft like a two-hour knot called “caterpillar knot.”

Brown has been known to buy upwards of 50 yards of rope at a time for each client.

“You’d be surprised as to how much rope is required for each play-date,” Brown said. “It’s one thing to just tie the wrists and the ankles. But most people are into full-body bondage which takes more rope than what you’d think is necessary.”

The times that Will is hired, he will grab his kit and go to wherever the location was.

A kit for a Shibari play-date would include soft, yet durable rope, a knife and black gloves for sanitation and to prevent from rope burns. Brown said he prefers a brand called Raven that can be found at places like O’Reilly’s Auto Parts.

Sessions last anywhere from 30 minutes to two hours, depending on the client. Once the services were completed, Brown would leave the rope for the clients.

Since 2015, Brown has had upwards to 20 or 30 clients in the Oklahoma City metro area. He stresses a level of openness with his clients yet a strict confidentiality when it comes to the public.

“Not only would it be wrong to tell others what I do for certain people, it would be bad for business,” Brown said. “After all, we’re all people. We’re all freaky. So let’s be open and honest about it but their business is their business.”

A GROWING TREND

In an article published by Psychology Today concerning BDSM and Shibari, the amount of people in the United States that are interested in this style of eroticism lies between 2 percent and 62 percent.

“Christian Joyal and colleagues (2015) asked over 1,500 women and men about their sexual fantasies - 64.6 percent of women and 53.3 percent of men reported fantasies about being dominated sexually and 46.7 percent of women and 59.6 percent of men reported fantasies about dominating someone sexually,” the article stated.

Brown continued to do his services for another year and a half until he got into a long-term relationship.

“Whenever I got into my relationship, I know that it made her feel a little uncomfortable so I decided to stop it for right then,” Brown said.

Today, however, Brown is single and still interested in educating people on the art of Shabari, though he is not currently taking clients.  

“If the market was right for it, I might pick it back up again. But, as of right now, I’ll help out people if they reach out to me but I’m just not advertising for it at this point.”

Even though Brown isn’t currently in the market, he had some advice for those wanting and willing to act on their urges without a BDSM consigliere to assist them.

“Get good rope,” Brown said, “Learn your knots before you do anything, keep a knife handy and make sure somebody knows what you’re doing. Be comfortable and honest with yourself.”

 

 

 

 

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